Hey lovebugsss!
I’m so excited to dive into a question that’s been on the minds of so many: How do we find the right person? It’s one of those quests we all seem to embark on, and trust me, I get it. Finding love can sometimes feel like trying to find the last slice of pizza at a party—you know it’s out there, but getting to it? Well, that’s another story! 🍕
So, grab your favourite beverage, get comfy, and let’s explore this together.
The Myth of the Perfect Person
Let’s start by talking about the myth of the “perfect” person. You know the ones I mean—the seemingly perfect couples you see on social media. They’re always at that sun-drenched café, gazing into each other’s eyes while sipping lattes.
Really? Who are these people, and do they even exist? Because, honestly, my idea of romance is more like sweatpants, Netflix, and a lot of snacks 😅
I remember one time when a friend of mine went on a date with someone who looked perfect on paper—similar interests, great job, the works. But when they met, they spent half an hour debating where to eat, only to end up in a drive-thru. Definitely not the romantic dinner I’d imagined!
Understanding Yourself First
Before we can find the right person, we need to understand ourselves first. Yep, cue the self-love talk!
Tip 1: Know Your Values
What’s important to you? Is it adventure, stability, humour? Take some time to think about it—this isn’t just another assignment, it’s about your love life!
Tip 2: Recognise Your Patterns
Ever notice you keep dating the same type of person? Maybe you’ve been picking a red flag factory every time 🚩
It’s worth reflecting on your past relationships. What worked? What didn’t?
And hey, if you’ve ever found yourself saying, “I swear, this time it’ll be different,” while clutching a bottle of wine—well, you’re not alone. We’ve all been there.
Expanding Your Horizons
Now that you know yourself a bit better, what’s next?
Tip 3: Step Out of Your Comfort Zone
This one’s huge! Step outside of your usual routine. Try new activities like joining a book club, signing up for a cooking class, or maybe even that dance class you’ve been eyeing.
I took a salsa class once thinking it’d be a fun way to meet new people—spoiler alert: I ended up stepping on more toes than a toddler at a wedding 😂
But it was a great icebreaker, and I met some amazing people!
The Power of Vulnerability
Let’s get deep for a second. If you want to connect with someone, you need to be open and vulnerable.
Tip 4: Embrace Your Imperfections
Nobody’s perfect. Seriously, nobody! I’ve had my share of awkward moments—like the time I spilled coffee on my date and tried to make a joke out of it. It didn’t land well.
But hey, I ended up marrying him, so maybe I got the last laugh.
But here’s the thing: vulnerability is what truly connects us. When we embrace our quirks and flaws, it encourages others to do the same. You’d be surprised how many people feel the same way about their imperfections.
Dating with Intention
Alright, let’s wrap this up with some actionable advice.
Tip 5: Be Intentional
When dating, it’s important to know what you’re looking for. Are you seeking something serious or just a casual fling? Communicate your intentions clearly—it’ll save both of you a lot of time and heartache.
And let’s be honest: nobody wants to be the person thinking they’re in a committed relationship while the other person is planning their next solo holiday.
Conclusion: Finding Your Person
At the end of the day, finding the right person isn’t about finding someone perfect. It’s about finding connection. It’s about two imperfect people navigating the journey of life together, laughing through awkward moments, and growing alongside each other.
So, what about you? What’s one lesson you’ve learned in your quest for love? I’d love to hear your thoughts—feel free to share them with me on below. Let’s keep this conversation going!
Love is out there—waiting for you to take that first step. So, put on your metaphorical hiking boots, because the adventure of finding love is just beginning. Until next time, take care of yourselves and each other ❤️
I hope this blog post brings a little warmth and a lot of laughs as you journey through the ups and downs of love. Let me know if you have any thoughts or questions—I’m always here for them!
Quick Updates
As the year wraps up, I wanted to share a few exciting updates with you all!
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Thank you for being here and for all your continued love and support! 💖
Love,
Ruby Dhal xxx
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