The many things that a friendship breakup can teach you

Starting with this very important, life-changing one.

Friendship breakups suck, they truly do.

Sometimes it can be so, so painful —even more so than a romantic breakup. And the reason? Because our friendships can expand over months and years of our lives which exceed the weeks and months that certain relationships last. But not just that —our friendships are our sacred bond with the people who aren’t blood related to us, or familiar to us because we see them everyday (such as at school, a course or work —as only strong bonds will continue after these phases in your life are over).

But it’s not just that. It isn’t.

There’s another reason why friendship breakups suck —and that is this: you hand over a huge part of yourself to the people that you choose to include in your safe space, and when those relationships fall apart, it means that part of you is missing —a part of your heart/soul— and that is what you grieve the most. Them and the you that they took with them.